#BrideToBride: Getting Married: The Ins and Outs

photo Getting Married: The Ins and Outs

By: Dyonndra R. Moore

So the love of your life finally decides to get down on one knee and propose. Now you’ve got the ring….the bliss begins…and then the excitement hits you. “I’M GETTING MARRIED!!” Until….the planning begins. What do I do now? Where do I begin? What kind of dress do I buy? How many bridesmaids shall I have? Where should I get married? Should I do a local wedding or should I do a destination wedding? All of these questions begin to bombard your mind at once and it seems as though you are beginning to have an internal battle with yourself.

As this may be true, the number one thing you want to remember is that your wedding day is just that: A DAY- or moreover, a few hours. Before you know it, it’s all a memory. Don’t sweat the small stuff for something that is going to last a few hours. Remember that the marriage is more important than the wedding. Take everything in as much as you can because it will go by so much quicker than you know and with the mix of emotions, family, and friends, you probably will not remember much of that one day you have stressed yourself out over for the last couple of months or for some the last year or so.

Some tips on making your wedding day as memorable as you can:

1. Make sure you have more than 1 photographer (if your budget allows) to capture every bit of your day from every angle possible.

2. Plan to have at least 1 videographer (2 if your budget allows) so that you can always have a live copy of your special day. Trust me; you will want this because your day will go by so quickly that you will look at your new spouse and say, “what happened on our wedding day?” It’s also something you can show to your friends and family who are unable to make your special day and furthermore, a great memory to have for your children and grandchildren.

3. Something is going to go wrong. Nothing will be perfect. Make sure you breathe and laugh at the small things. For example, on my wedding day, the power went out on the entire island of Oahu in Hawaii just an hour before my ceremony was to begin. Go figure! As long as you stay positive, everything will work out just fine.

4. Don’t be afraid to talk to others who have gone through the wedding planning jitters phase. You will learn so much from their experiences and will definitely feel more at ease once you learn you are not alone in this. You will see that every bride has gone through something. Nobody’s wedding planning experience is perfect – BELIEVE ME!

5. MOST IMPORTANTLY – Have fun!!! You’ve been planning this day forever- Reward yourself! You’ve spent thousands and thousands of dollars, stressed out to the point of mental breakdown (or wait, maybe that was just me!), and you’ve run yourself all over the world and back to make this day as special as possible. Now sit back and enjoy it all! You deserve it! If you have to delegate tasks to your bridal party – do so. Use your wedding planner to your full advantage as well – that’s what you’re paying them for. Your wedding day is just that – YOUR wedding day! Have a blast and make it memorable.

My brides to be: Use all the tools you can to learn about how to make this day the best day possible. Research books, magazines, and especially blog sites such as this one. These blog sites will give the best ideas because you are able to get first hand advice from real brides who have been exactly where you are right now. Good luck and have a wonderful, blissful married life!